Taking care of an elderly person at home, whether you do it all yourself or with the help of professional caregivers, can be a positive experience. Many people’s first impressions of elderly home care is that it is exasperating, hard work and physically – as well as mentally – exhausting. You may feel that you have taken on more than you wished for, but with a little bit of patience and a lot of good spirit you can find that elderly home care has its upsides too.
Elderly home care is an opportunity to look after someone who may have raised and nurtured you themselves. They may be hesitant and embarrassed by their need for care, and this can be one of the first barriers to gently break down. If you can help your relative see that they are not a burden to you then they will accept the help that you can give them.
There is a lot of press attention about caregiver stress, as well as the financial implications of looking after someone in your home. If you can turn the experience into a positive one you will alleviate a lot of the stress for both you and them. Moving your relative to a live in home, away from their support network, may prove a lot harder to everyone involved – and it is not a cheap alternative to elderly home care help. Despite the negative coverage, providing elderly care for you loved ones can be good for you and your family members.
When you have small children at home they can truly benefit from the care and attention they will receive from their grandparents. This kind of unconditional love will be missed if they have to move out, or if you leave them where they live and don’t visit very often. While your elderly relative is still well enough they may also be able to take some time to care for the children, giving you and your partner a break. Even if they are not up to taking care of the children their loving presence in the house will make a big difference. It is a great lesson to teach the kids about responsibility and love for family members. This is often forgotten when we look for other ways to give our elderly relatives the care that they need.
By prioritizing your life, and your lifestyle, to fit around the home care of your elderly loved ones you may find yourself more fulfilled. You will strengthen the bond between yourself as a caregiver and the family member you are helping. This bond will be reflected through the behavior of your own children, and this bond will last through future generations. Elderly home care is an opportunity to build up your personal strengths and get the most out of life for you and your family. We don’t suggest it won’t be challenging, and there is always professional assistance to make it a little easier, but you shouldn’t deny yourself the opportunity to give a little back.